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"My journey to the New Me"

  • Extended Tummy Tuck

  • Breast Augmentation Story

 

My name is Dorie and I am 37 years old. I live in sunny Southern California.

 

To being my story, I married when I was 16 years old to a man, 20 years old - who I thought loved me for me.  I was over weight my whole life, and thought if he loved me with this fat, then he must really love me.  Unfortunately, he was physically, mentally and emotionally abusive, controlling beyond imagination. I was forbidden from seeing or speaking to my family and for 16 years had no friends. 

 

After 16 years of marriage I figured it must be me that was the problem in our marriage regarding his anger issues.  I felt responsible since I was still overweight.   Who could be happy with a woman who weighed 279 lbs.?  It was at that point that I decided to claim my life back.  I joined a gym (female only gym), hired a personal trainer and a Nutritionist. 

 

My husband (at the time) gave me the money to help pay for the gym, etc.  I know he must have been thinking that I have tried this so many times before and I failed each time.  But this time it was different.  I was changing – because I could not stand to see the woman I became, really - who could love me like this?  

 

The personal trainer I hired went through EXACTLY what I was doing with every aspect of my life and with her encouragement and unbelievable kind words I ended up a year later being at the goal I had set – which was 175 lbs.  This journey has been very emotional for me, as a year and a half later I am now 150 lbs. and toned.  I loved the new me and I could see the efforts of all of my hard work.  My self esteem was beaming, as I was feeling so good about me!

 

My husband looked at me one day and tried to demoralize my self esteem.  I was so taken back, thinking we had been married for over 19 years now and he comes back with this comment.  I needed support not hurtful or demeaning words.  It was at this time that a light bulb went on inside at the same time and I finally could see him for what he was.  An insecure selfish jerk…..it was never about me and my weight.  I looked at him right then and said I want a divorce.  Telling my children that their mommy and daddy were divorcing was harder however.  My children were 17, 15, and 11 years at the time.  They took it hard understandably, however they had seen how things were for so long.  I gave them the option to either move with me or to stay with their Dad, and reassured them that no matter where they would be I would always love them.

 

My two oldest who are boys wanted to stay with their Dad and finish high school.  My daughter, who is the youngest - wanted to be with me.  I told her it would be a few days but I would be back to get her.  I ended up packing right away and left.  I walked away from a $750,000 home which was paid off and a combined income of over $200,000 plus a year.  I ended up moving in with a great friend in which; I had nothing but my clothing and pictures of the kids.  My income was now only $30,000 a year, so this was a huge adjustment.

 

A few days later, I picked up my daughter and moved into a single bedroom together for four months until I could save up the money for an apartment.  I financed all the furniture and just finding money for day to day essentials was a struggle.  All I knew was that I was finally free and understanding what happiness was truly about.   My parents helped out with making sure my daughter would not go without any necessities.

 

One month later I filed for divorce.  My oldest son ended up giving me an ultimatum that either I move back in with his father or he would have nothing to do with me.  Unfortunately, I have not spoken to my son in over two years now as he has chosen not to speak to me.  I understand he is hurt that the family is fractured now, but I do hope in time he will understand why I had to leave when I did.   I was an empty soul when I was with his father and I finally understood that the only one standing in the way of my happiness was my self.  I miss my son so very much; my heart is broken because of this aftermath and I hope and pray that someday all of this will be behind us.

 

I started to date and found how much times have changed.  Dating was okay but I knew if I were to be intimate with a man, my body still showed the years of how the excess weight took its toll.  I knew I needed to do something as soon as I could afford the surgery.  I needed a Tummy Tuck, Breast Augmentation and Breast Lift, my inner thighs and my arms needed a lift as well.  I saved as much as I could for over 2 years.  I ended up saving over $8,000 and my Dad helped me with giving me an additional $6,000 to go towards the surgery.   The surgery was going to be $14,000, in which I was scheduled for an extended tummy tuck.  Financially I had to do the surgeries I needed in steps, but still life was good, I loved me, and I loved my life.  

 

I still needed to have a breast augmentation and a lift.  My breasts have never been perky or pretty in any sense of the word, and the weight loss had taken its toll on my breast tissue.  I researched extensively what I was hoping for with these procedures.

 

This had to wait however; until I would have the money.

 

A year ago I finally met my soul mate who is the love of my life.  I never knew life could be so great – and thought I was dreaming!  He is amazing in every sense of the word – and he loved me like no other man has ever loved me before.  Unfortunately due to the economic downturn, I lost my job in November 2008.  Because of this, my daughter and I live with him now.  I was able to save over $3,000 to go towards my breast augmentation and lift – but realized that once on unemployment – my dream of having a breast augmentation was a long ways away.  I wanted to feel like a real woman who had beautiful breasts.  Although, I was so very fortunate to have a wonderful life with my new husband – I secretly was devastated that I could never save the remaining money I needed for my surgery.

 

My husband, the amazing man he is - came to me and said that he would pay for the balance of the surgery, as he knew I needed this to feel complete and whole again.  He told me to make the appointment….and my journey to my dream boobs was within sight!  Three days later, my consult was here and I knew exactly what I wanted as I had been researching this procedure for years!  I told my plastic surgeon I wanted 800cc implants.  I love having a little bit of side boob – I emphasized that I wanted big fake looking saline breasts.

 

Two weeks later I finally had my breast augmentation and lift.  I paid for the lollipop lift and for the breast augmentation….however; my plastic surgeon the day of surgery asked me if I wanted him to do whatever it takes to make my breasts perfect.  There was no hesitation, I told him of course.  I woke up four hours later with really big implants and a full anchor lift.  My result is perfect as perfect can be.  My plastic surgeon is an artist and I never dreamed in all of my life that I would ever end up with these perfect breasts. 

 

Because of the weight loss, I had a log of extra skin that was on the sides of my breast under the arm area.  My plastic surgeon knew this bothered me, so I was scheduled for another surgery to remove this extra tissue.  This surgery went off without a hitch and I woke up with no extra skin or scars!  The surgery lasted two hours and woke up with no pain or pressure.

 

My plastic surgeon, Dr. Sajjadian has made such an impact on me and my self esteem.  I am amazed by him and his work….he had the ability to see “what could be” and gave it to me!  Both surgeries went exceptionally well with very little pain.  Recovery was easy and all I needed was Tylenol.  Trying to sleep however, was a challenge and after trying to sleep upright for 72 hours with no avail, I finally did sleep for four hours.

 

 

  • Post op tip: 

If you have the chance to buy a recliner chair before your surgery – do it!  They help so much, and believe me if I need another surgery I will definitely be purchasing one.

 

At this time, I have decided not to have surgery on my arms however; I am still considering my inner thighs.  I do finally feel like a sexy woman who is in complete control of everything around her.  I do not take anything in my life for granted, and I cherish everything and everyone in my life.  I do believe in Karma – so I don’t waste my time on negative energy.  I love my new breasts – yes they are BIG - but they are so ME!  And for the first time in my life – I love myself!

 

My husband and I are now considering having a baby, and I am finally ready for this!  At 37 years old, I am finally seeing a lot of things for the very first time, almost like I am exploring and seeing things through the eyes of a child.  I love my husband completely and I want to thank him for the support, guidance, and compassion he has unselfishly given to me.  You have allowed me to become “me”.  To all my Cosmetic Surgery Forum friends – live life to the fullest.  You are so worth it and each and every one of you are beautiful.

 

 Steve & Dorie

~ Living life with the love of my life ~

 

 

 

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